Happy Valentines Day loves! I don’t know about y’all, but I woke up in a pretty great mood. This time last year, I was discontent with being single. Today, after lots of soul work, I’m at peace with this season of my life. Here’s a few tips on how to enjoy being single:
- Learn about true love. 1 John 4:7-21 + 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 give the template for love and God’s intentions for it. Love is not about the romanticized fairytales that were imprinted on our brains as children. To truly know love, we must get acquainted with God who is love. He’s the very essence of what it embodies! I’m intentional about letting God perfect love in me by being patient, kind, humble, honorable and giving to everyone around me.
- Don’t wait on a mate to do things. In October 2016, I got on a plane and went to San Diego for 3 days by myself. This was my first time traveling across the country without friends or a significant other. Let me tell you, it was one of the most liberating experiences of my life! My codependent tendencies were no more after that weekend. I started to do more things on my own, like going to the movies and out to eat. I learned how to enjoy my life and my own company!
- Become the best version of yourself. I started intentionally working on myself about 3 years ago. It started with going back to church and attending weekly bible studies. Eventually I started going to counseling and joined a small group for accountability. Doing internal work has taught me a lot about myself and who I want to evolve into. I’m more whole and self aware, which is crucial for a healthy relationship.
- Chase your dreams. I used to think life started after getting married. Everything I dreamed of doing involved my future partner. One day God told me to build my empire first. I got to work on my God ordained assignment! Marriage is a percentage of purpose and should not be the only focus. My future partner will compliment the assignment I’m already on!
Ps: Don’t forget to check-in with yourself today. Be honest about how you’re feeling! It’s ok to be sad or even discontent, but don’t stay in a negative space. Be intentional about self care + self love. -xo Lorean 💜